When an old friend asks you to write up a particular blog post you can not say no, so that is why today I am coming at you with my tips for successful and low stress wedding planning. Of course these are the things that I think helped us the most, others may disagree but I think a lot of this is pretty straight forward.
My husband Evan and I planned the whole wedding ourselves for the most part, we did not have a hired wedding planner and our parents helped on certain projects but it was hard for them to do much since we were in different places. Overall it was a lot for us at times to plan a wedding while in a different state and working full time but we made it work and did our best to keep stress down. Now that it is all said and done it was more than worth it, we had the most wonderful day.
#1- Know your budget:
I made this number one because I think you cant really do any planning until you know what you are working with. I think a wedding can be beautiful at any budget and there are lots of creative ways to save money but in order to do the big steps like pick a venue you first have to know your overall budget. So sit down with your fiancé and discuss what you feel comfortable with. In addition to deciding on your actual budget it is really important to agree on the guest count early on because that is going to be what effects the budget the most.
#2- Pick What is Most Important to You
I think this is the big one!! I also think this goes hand in hand with your budget and how you are going to spend your money. Again sit down with your fiancé and make a list of what your most important items and which things aren't as important to you. For us our important items were: We wanted the ceremony and reception to be at the same location, preferably ceremony outside and good photography so we were willing to splurge on those items and cut back in other areas. For us linens, chairs, favors and invitations weren't as important to us so we cut back in those areas (and I bet no one would've guessed) there were also several items that we found ways to save money on so that it could be spent on our more important items.When you complete your budget allocate the majority of the money to those items you feel are most important and the rest will fall into place.
#3- Tackle One Big Item at a Time
This was the one thing that kept our stress level down and was easy for us since we had such a long period of time to plan from the time we got engaged to our wedding day was almost a year and a half. This may not work as well for some, especially if you are planning on a shorter timeline. How we did this was by using a wedding timeline and making our own lists and completing one big item at a time so we weren't juggling too many things at once. We started with the venue , which gave us our date and once that was picked we moved on to booking our photographer. We slowly worked down the list booking vendors one by one until we were done. We actually had all of our major vendors booked over a year out which kept things low stress.
#4- Let Some of Your Vision Adapt
What the heck does that mean Emily? What that means if you are like most and are coming into wedding planning with a Pinterest board full of ideas you want your wedding to look like then you will likely have to adapt some of that as you realize the costs of things, what's available in your area, what works with your actual venue, etc. In all honestly we adapted parts of our vision more times then I can count through the process, even just in small ways. The one we laugh about the most is how much we thought we "needed" the gold chavari chairs you see in all the pictures to make the reception beautiful, then you find out it will cost you $1000+ for CHAIRS and you realize that is something you can clearly live without and no I don't think anyone missed them lol. This again goes hand in hand with your budget, as expenses start to add up you may find yourself feeling ok about eliminating things you thought you couldn't go without in the beginning, this happened to us alot.

#5- Only DIY if you Like it
This is just a funny bonus tip. Most people know I did a lot of small DIYs for our wedding. However I did this because I really enjoyed the projects, I love an excuse to craft and I love handmade touches at weddings so I knew I would be adding some DIY touches for sure. However a lot of people think they should do it save money, while you definitely can save money on certain items that's not true of all. If you don't like crafting then I wouldn't suggest it, just more stress for you. Also if you are trying to save money and you end up having to start projects over that's probably costing you more in the end. For us there was only one DIY project flop that just didn't work out and we cut it out, other than pretty much everything I worked on we used.
A couple of the projects were the wedding signs:
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p.s. we clearly have not gotten our professional wedding photos so thank you to all our guests who snapped these included in the post